What do I want from Me?

We live in an age of instant gratification. All too often we want to see the immediate results of the work that we do. Especially when it comes to weight lose or health issues, if we don’t see the results we want, quickly enough, we judge that the method we have chosen for change isn’t good. What most of us really want is to make a few changes and lose all the weight we want in a short period of time, then go back to living a “normal” life. The problem is that most of the time, going back to our old habits, puts us back in our old body. The simple fact of the matter is that there is no quick fix. The only real and permanent answer is a positive lifestyle change. Most self aware adults already understand this, but we still can't stop looking for that "quick fix" to our perceived problems.

One great way to improve our health and weight is through exercise. The trick is in how you see exercise. Is it just something you think you will try for awhile to see if it helps, or are your ready to commit to improving your life (and health) through developing a good workout habit? If you're getting started in taking that next big step into lifelong exercise for health, there are a few thing that if you recognize may help you through the hard times. Knowing that these tough spots are normal may keep you from quiting.

Here is what most of us see when we start working out. After the first good workout, our muscles are sore and tired and we feel worn out. We continue to be sore for a day or two until we decide to try the workout again. This time it is a little easier, and the stiffness in our muscles begin to relax. We expect to see the numbers on the scale go down. Sometimes they do, and sometimes they go up (we’re gaining muscle, and muscle weighs more than fat). Then we get to a point where exercise is a regular habit and we feel good about what we’re doing for our bodies. We see some positive results in weight loss.

Then the numbers on the scale seem to stabilize. We’ve stopped losing the weight that we wanted to keep losing. At this point there are a few choices we can make. We can give up the exercising, and lose “weight” due to muscle loss. We can assume the exercise isn’t enough, and increase our workout. Or we can keep up with what we were doing and hope that we will achieve our goals overtime. Each person faced with this issue will have to make his or her own decision. This plateau situation seems to happen to most of us. It’s just a part of what the body needs to do to stabilize our weight. It’s okay if you still feel that you have more weight to lose. Allow your regulator to do its job, and adjust to the new weight. If you panic and go on a crash diet you may lose a few pound immediately, but you may send your body into panic mode, decreasing your metabolism and eventually sending you back to the old weight you started at. Be kind to your body and let it do its job. Your job is to eat healthy and exercise, your body will take care of maintaining the proper weight all by itself.

If you have truly committed yourself to a new habit of regular exercise, don't worry too much what the scale says right now. You are looking for long term results. Don't settle for less. No more yo-yo diet and exercise programs for you. You are going to be great and this time it will be for good!

Mom, What’s For Dinner!!

Evenings at home can be so hectic. It’s the time babies are most colicky, kids are the most busy with homework, sports, music lessons, scouts etc., and your husband is just getting home wanting some attention. On top of that, everybody’s hungry. You have probably been dealing with everyone’s problems all day long, and feeling a little frazzled yourself. What happens next? You either have to cook dinner, or get someone else to do it. Some day’s you find that the only thing you can manage is to order pizza. We’ve all had those days, but if you find that you are frustrated with dinner time more than once a week, maybe you could benefit from a dinner planning system.

The biggest problem I have found with cooking dinner is trying to decide what to make. I often ask my children what they want for dinner and they always reply “I don’t care” besides the one child who always says “Pizza”. So I’m left again to stare into the fridge, then the freezer, then the fridge trying to find something to make that I know that I have all of the ingredients for so that I don’t have to run to the store. After all, we really want to just get it done because we are all hungry and want to eat now!! In this moment of wanting to cook dinner quickly so we can all just eat, it can be really stressful to try to come up with a menu.

Luckily, I found some help. I was introduced to this dinner planning system more than 10 years ago. It changed my life and I still use it every week.

Dinner planning is going to take a little forethought. It requires three steps. Recipe and store ad research, menu planning, and a good grocery list / shopping trip.

First the prep work. Set aside at least 30 minutes the first time you do your dinner planning, so that you can get organized. Now, make a list of everything your family likes to eat, just let the ideas flow. Write everything that comes off of the top of your head. Once you’ve written everything you can think of, look through all of your cookbooks and write down any recipe you have made that your family likes. This is your new “Family Favorites” list. Keep this list someplace handy so that you can refer to it each week when you plan the menu.

In addition to your “Family Favorites” list, try one new recipe for dinner each week. You can get new recipes from friends, cook books, magazines, and my favorite- the internet (there are tons of recipe websites, and most will have reviews for each recipe.) By trying a new recipe each week you will keep from getting bored of the same old thing, and you may find some new things that you can add to your family favorites. A recipe that we discovered this way was “sweet and sour meatballs.” I know what you’re thinking. It sounds really weird, but I tried it out of a cook book for something new and found that we love it. We put it on our list.

Now you are ready to start planning. First gather your supplies: your “Family Favorites” list, any recipe books you think you may use, grocery store ads for the week, a calendar and your grocery list.

The next step is to look at the calendar and take note of any special days. Times when you’re having company for dinner, or days when there are a lot of kids events in the evening and you know that you won’t have time for cooking anything elaborate. Plan these meals first. Write the dinner menu right there on the date your planning to make it. Next consider any meal that you have really been craving, and it goes on the calendar next (sometimes it pays to be the one who cooks.) Then look at the grocery ads and see what is on special that week. If they are offering London Broil cheap that week, find a recipe for London Broil. It is also helpful to pick one grocery store that has the best deals for the week and stick to just that ad. Sometimes you will want to go to more than one store to catch some really great deals, but that is up to you. After you have looked through the grocery ad for meal ideas, if there are any days that don’t have a meal assigned to it, go to your list of family favorites and fill in the blank days. Once you have picked the meals you want to cook, look at the recipes and check your kitchen to see what ingredients you already have for the recipes and add the items that you need to the grocery list.

A quick word about your grocery list: I suggest that the grocery list be readily accessible during the week. Mine is a magnet backed pad of paper that I keep on the fridge. When you use up the last of something or find that you need something that isn’t in your house you can add it to the grocery list. When you are creating the list for the week it helps to write items on the list according to the sections of the store that they can be found. For example, keep the produce, dairy, meats, or canned goods written in the separate areas from each other on the list. This way when your standing in the produce aisle, you can look to that section of the list, and not overlook something that is written someplace else.

Now that you have a list, a menu for the week, and recipes to go off of, you can go forth and conquer. You are a Mom with a plan. Remember that this plan is just meant to help you along. There will be days when you don’t feel like eating the meal you had planned for that day, and that’s okay. You can just trade it with another day, or cook a family favorite that you know you have ingredients for already in the kitchen. This dinner planning system will give you the freedom to enjoy your evenings again with your family. You may even find that you are calm enough to get your kids to help with the preparations. Enjoy taking back “dinner time.”